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The Dalke Dream Retreat

The Dalke Dream Retreat

We’ve prayed over this. Over planned it. Wondered if we really could. And then decided. It’s time for us to share our home with you! Yes, you’ll be staying in our HOME! 

One of our BIG dreams is to have a place to have retreats where people can come rest, dream, and work towards becoming the best version of themselves. And we decided that we shouldn’t wait until we have more space. We should do it now! 

We hosted our 1st Dream retreat last Fall for some of our SuperStar directors and their spouses, and it was life giving to us and them! 

This Fall, we are opening our home again to 6 Scentsy directors and their spouses for a special weekend of dreaming, planning, and action. This is our heartbeat, and we could not be more excited to welcome you into our home and our lives. 

The details: 
Friday, October 5th-Sunday, October 7th OR Friday, November 30- Sunday, December 2nd. 
The retreat will begin on Friday at 6:00 pm with dinner and drinks and will end on Sunday around 1:00 pm.

If you’re flying in, you’ll fly into the OKC Will Rogers World Airport. Once you land, we will be there to welcome you to Oklahoma! 

All expenses are included in the cost of registration: lodging, food, beverages (alcoholic and non-alcoholic), training materials, snacks, and experiences. (travel expenses not included) 
Each couple will have a private room stocked with your favorite snacks and drinks and fun gifts from the Dalkes. 2 couples will share a bathroom with another couple. 2 couples will have a private bathroom. 

Cost is $550 per couple paid at the time of registration.
*Your Scentsy title must be DQ or above to join us for this retreat.*

We only have space for 6 couples, so when we say intimate, we mean intimate! 

What can I expect at the retreat? 
This retreat is designed to be and intimate time of rest, dreaming, planning, and preparation for action. Each couple will walk away with a customized business plan based on your life, dreams, finances, and goals. We will also play, eat, and dream together! 

We will also discuss:
Business Systems
Business Finances
Time Management and planning 
Managing family and business 
and we’ll be looking at your specific business and situation to help you create a tailored business plan 


Q: Why do I need a significant other to attend?
A: This retreat is specifically designed for couples because we have a  passion for supporting marriages and businesses! We believe it’s incredibly valuable to be on the same page as your spouse when discussing and planning for your business. 

Q: Will you ever offer a retreat just for consultants (without spouses in attendance)? 
A: Yes! We are actually hosting one this month (that is already full!) and have plans to host more in the Spring. (Stay tuned for more info!) 

Q: Why is the cost $550 per couple if it’s in your home? 
A: We tailor each experience specifically to the couple including special gifts, amazing food and drinks, and an incredible surprise experience. 

Q: Why do I have to be a Director Q or above to attend? 
A: We will be discussing upper level leadership topics. We do plan on offering a similar retreat in the future to consultants at any title. 

Q: What if I’m not married or don’t have a significant other? 
A: We would love to have you at one of our consultant only retreats in the Spring. Dates to be announced soon. 

Q: Is there a payment plan?
A: We are not offering a payment plan at this time. 

To register, fill out the form below, and we’ll contact you via email for payment. Once paid, you will be officially registered! 

Come dream with us! 

From now on

From now on

The first four months of 2018 have felt like progress and defeat all at the same time to me. I started out the year with some big goals and some even bigger dreams. And along the way, I’ve gotten scared, wondered if we can make it all happen, and doubted my ability to really follow through.

But that’s the thing about big dreams isn’t it?

They tend to hover overhead, just out of reach, taunting you into wondering if you have what it takes.

I think the enemy likes big dreams. I think he likes to send his little soldiers appropriately named fear and doubt directly towards our hearts. I’ve noticed that when I’m binge watching Netflix or mindlessly scrolling social media, the devil doesn’t give me too much trouble. He heckles me sometimes about those couple cupcakes I ate last week but if I’m not walking towards big goals and dreams, he pretty much lets me be.

But those dreams….the plans and the goals and the making myself better part…all that seems to really rile him up. And I bet the same thing happens to you.

You know when you want to change something and you really step into it, and you make a plan and set a goal, what always happens? Opposition. Those little devil soldiers come marching right in trying to tell us we’re not good enough to change or that we’re not disciplined enough or talented enough or pretty enough or blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.

They’re lies my friends. All lies. 

This year, as I’ve stepped into the big God sized dreams we have for our life, I’ve felt the opposition more than I ever have. And it’s staring to really tick me off. I’m over it. I’ve learned that we can choose to be over it and start to ignore the lies that get pushed into our head from the enemy. We can choose to live in the victory that Christ gave us on the cross. To me, opposition has become one more reason to fight hard and then harder still. 

I refuse to let mediocrity lead my life. I truly believe we were all made for more than average.

I believe you were made for greatness, friend. 

But are you walking in greatness? Or are you choosing to shrink to mediocrity? I’m not asking to point blame or tell you how much you suck. Mostly I’m asking myself. 

I said I was going to start writing a book this year.

Have I started? Nope.

Have a made a million excuses as to why I don’t have time to write? Yes.

Regardless of how things have gone so far this year for you or for me, there is always now. From now on things can be different. We can choose to rise to the greatness we’re called to live in. 

Will it be messy? Of course. Will we mis-step? Obviously. And we’ll make a mess of things and make mistakes and doubt ourselves over and over again.

The devil’s little soldiers will charge forward on full attack. You living up to your potential, using your gifts and talents to further the kingdom of God….that’s the kind of living the devil will try to take out. But guess what? The devil’s fighters don’t have power over you! You’re the only one who gets to choose how far their advances go.

So today, after having not written on this blog for 9 months, I’m saying ENOUGH. I have victory to claim through Jesus Christ and so do you.

For me, that means I have to start writing again. I’ve let the devil tell me I have nothing of value to say for far too long. So from now, I’m a writer again. And I get to stand up and decide that because I’m the daughter of the King of the world. And you can make the same kind of decisions.

Will I be great at it? Who knows. I’ll probably suck for a while.

Will I have to fight for the time and mental space to write? Oh yeah… a soldier.

But from now on, I’m a fighter. And I think you should be a fighter too. 

Your fight is probably different than mine. But it’s a fight worth fighting.


Ask yourself….

What is your heart yearning for?

What did you used to love to do as a child that you stopped doing?

What do you dream about doing or becoming?

Where do you want to go?

Who do you want to serve?

Where do you want to give more?


Maybe it’s time for all of us to dream again.

And now, what you waiting for? Netflix and social media will always be there to distract you from living the life you’re called to. I believe you’re called to big, beautiful things. I don’t think those dreams in your heart are random or selfish or unimportant. I think they’re worth fighting for. 

So what is it for you?

What is it time to fight for?

Let’s go to war, friends. 

You know where you can find me. I’ll be here, or at home, or on the road, but from now on, I’ll be writing about all of it. 


Finding Rest from Good Work

Finding Rest from Good Work

This November, we will celebrate our 10 year anniversary with Scentsy. Ten years seems like such a long time to me especially when this is never what I set out to do with my life. Even though this wasn’t my plan, here we are, almost 10 years later, still loving what we get to call our “job.”

But if I’m honest, I haven’t always loved this work. It’s been extremely difficult at times to stay motivated in the day to day grind of sharing the opportunity and selling and coaching hosts and leading a team. But I know it’s not just my job that gets mundane at times. Once you’ve done any one thing for a period of time, it can become pretty ordinary and start to feel stagnant.

I don’t want to do work that I’m not passionate about and I’m guessing you don’t either. I don’t want to give my all to something when I myself am lacking the inspiration to get things done. I’ve tried lots of things to remedy this lack of inspiration over the years. We’ve attended countless trainings, listened to mentors, sought out new and exciting ways to grow our business. We went through a season where we literally changed the way we did everything in hopes of finding some fresh motivation behind new methods. Some of those things worked and some of those things just found me more overwhelmed and uninspired.

The only thing that has brought me back time and time again to a place of inspiration, self-motivation, and positive growth in my business is rest.

Yes, you read that right, simply rest.

All the good work we have to offer the world can be increased and multiplied by rest.

I know that rest sounds counterintuitive. If I lack motivation and inspiration, shouldn’t I work harder to find that? Not necessarily. Sometimes you just need rest from the good work you’re doing.

One of the major problems with direct sells I see these days is that because of the way it works (i.e. sales, sponsoring, building and leading a team, etc) your work can never end. You can literally work as many hours a week as your heart desires on your business. Go, go, go, go, don’t miss the momentum, don’t miss the call, don’t miss the opportunity, don’t miss the chance to learn. Those are all good things, but most things are good i moderation, not excess.

The never ending work day, work week, work month and work year slowly snowballs into burn out. I have seen more leaders leave direct sales over burn out than for any other reason. 

And that’s where we circle back around to rest. Rest is the place where you’re reminded of why you do what you do and what it is you’re working towards anyways. Rest is the place where you remember who you are and what you have to offer the world. Rest is the place where you breathe and eat and fellowship and play. Rest is where inspiration and motivation is re-birthed.

But what is rest?

It is not sleep or idle time in front of the tv or scrolling social media. It’s really the opposite of all 3 of those things. Rest is finding peace in a chaotic world. It’s re-connecting with you are and the things and people that you love. It’s being disconnected from the big and re-connected with the small. So how do you find rest in our busy, busy world? Here are some simple ideas to help get you started:

1. Set work timelines
Everyday, before the day begins, I prioritize my 3 big wins for the day, and set a stop time on my work. What doesn’t get done within the timeline of the workday, simply doesn’t get done. This helps in several areas of my business. First of all, it helps me identify the most valuable tasks in front of me and helps me make them a priority for the day. Because I’ve set a timeline for my workday and 3 big wins, I’m focused on getting those 3 things done within the timeline and I become more productive…less time scrolling Facebook or shopping on Amazon, or answering texts or calls that may interrupt my tasks for the day.

2. Stop 
This seems so simple, but when you “work” in an environment where you can literally work all hours of the day, it’s easy to just keep going. But you need to stop. Hold true to your timeline, and stop working. Texts, Facebook messages, emails, phone calls, they can all be tended to later when you’ve set aside some time to work. Don’t let your phone rule your life. Stop working and be present.
(If you’re thinking you can’t do this because you’ve always been available, let people know that you aren’t always going to be available and why. They’ll adjust to your lack of constant availability, and they may even respect you more for setting some boundaries.)

3. Take care of you
Taking care of you looks different for all of us. For me, working out, cooking dinner, having my family around the table, praying, putting my phone away, reading, playing with my kids, journaling, painting my nails, having a glass of wine, sitting outside, dating my spouse, traveling, visiting with friends….and the list goes on….these are all ways that I take care of me. All of the above listed items are things that bring me joy and restoration and peace. They calm down my always running mind and allow me to focus on the things I love the most about my life, my faith, and my family.

4. Put away your phone
This may be the biggest challenge for all of us. We have become hyper connected to the world around us. Some people think that because we have a phone, we should be available at a moment’s notice to respond to a text or answer a phone call or check Facebook or instagram or twitter or snapchat, or read an email. But it’s not true. Just because you have a phone you can carry in your pocket, doesn’t mean you have to carry it in your pocket all the time. Part of finding rest is learning how to disconnect from the things that don’t truly matter and re-connect with the things and people that do truly matter. I have been known to have my head in my phone while watching my kids play outside. I have been known to say “just a minute” to my kids while I finish a post or a comment or response to a text. We’re all guilty of those things. And honestly, the phone issue doesn’t go away unless we intentionally make a conscious effort to change the way we view our availability. Simply put it away. Plug it in in your room while you’re making dinner or leave it in the car while your kids are playing at the park, or set “no phone” hours in your house. Do what works for you, but put it away.

5. Remember who you are
Often our constant focus on the bottom line and our progress in our work can consume us. I have found that remembering who I am and the talents and interests that I’ve had for almost all of my life, make me a better business owner and leader and parent. Ask yourself these questions:
What did I love to do as a child? What did I want to be when I grew up? What are 10 things I would do with a free afternoon and no other obligations?
The answers to those questions may seem irrelevant, but they aren’t. They reveal a lot about who you are, what you believe, and what you were created to do on this Earth. For example, as a child I loved to write and dance and explore and hike and play hide and seek. Many of those things I didn’t do for years. But re-discovering those gifts and talents and interests created a new inspiration in my business and my work day.
I’ve loved to write since I was a little girl. I have journals filled with words and dreams and lists and goals and plans, but I wasn’t actively using writing in my business. Now, writing has become part of the way I communicate with my team and leaders and potential customers. I have re-structured my work day to include writing as one of the ways I work my business.
Remembering who we are may seem silly and unnecessary and very un-business like, but getting to the root of who you are and what you love to do and finding rest in doing things you actually enjoy doing can rejuvenate and refresh your business in ways you never thought possible.

I don’t want you to burn out. No matter what field of business you’re in, no matter what your job is, there are ways to find renewed strength and passion for whatever it is you call your work. The first step to getting there is by finding rest.

Direct Sales Perception vs Reality…The Grass is Not Greener

Direct Sales Perception vs Reality…The Grass is Not Greener

You spend your small investment, start your business, and find some success. You continue working for a year, maybe two, and then you see something else. It’s shiny and new. It looks exciting, and if you could be successful at what you’re currently doing, maybe you could be even more successful at this. Plus, you’re kind of tired of selling the same thing month after month, over and over again.

Tempting right? And maybe this new opportunity would be even better because you could “get in early,” and be one of the 1st consultants. Why wouldn’t you try? 

Perception: If I can be successful at one direct sales business, I can be successful at more than one. or If I can be successful at one direct sales business, I can go to another one and be just as successful or even more.
Reality: The grass is not greener somewhere else. The grass is green where you water it and only where you water it. And it’s hard to water more than one yard.

I’ve seen too many consultants leave their company to go do something that seems more interesting or that may be “a better opportunity” only to get burned out again and go looking for the newest thing.

I can assure you, no matter what product you sell, no matter how much money you’re making, there is always burnout to some extent. {more on that in tomorrow’s blog post} Leaving and finding something shiny and new will not make that burnout go away.

The better idea is to get back to your purpose. Why were you doing this in the first place? Did you want to take your family on vacation? Did you want to have something to call your own? Were you intrigued by the challenge of trying something new and seeing whether or not you could do it? Maybe you needed extra spending cash or wanted to help with the family bills. Whatever your main purpose, you’ve got to reconnect with that. Ask yourself what changes in your life if that purpose becomes a reality. Maybe you’ve reached your goal and need a new vision for your business. Get to the heart of it, and create a solid and visible vision of what you want from this business. Make a list of everything that you have because of your business that you didn’t have before, but don’t go looking for the next best thing. More than likely, you’ll only be disappointed.

Water your own grass, encourage those women who are doing their thing in direct sales, and remember that trying to water too many yards at once will only result in some dried out and uninspiring front yards.

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Direct Sales Perception vs Reality: Direct Sales is ever changing

Direct Sales Perception vs Reality: Direct Sales is ever changing

I have several past Scentsy consultants coming back into the Scentsy world this month, and the thing they all keep saying to me is, “everything has changed so much!”

And they’re absolutely right. This year will be my 10th year as a Scentsy consultant, and the one thing I can say you can always expect in this business is for it to change. Of course you can expect the product line to change from season to season, but you may not expect everything else to change so much.

The biggest changes come from the way our world is ever changing. Technology has played a major role in being able to reach more people and grow worldwide businesses. I had Facebook 10 years ago, but back then you could only have an account if you had a college email address. Now everyone from my grandma, to my step-dad, to my relatives in Italy have a Facebook account, and that has definitely changed the way we communicate and share as consultants.

If you’ve been out of the direct sales game for a while, and you are planning on getting back in, just know that things probably look different than they did before.

If you’re a current consultant and you’re doing things the way you’ve always done them because that’s the way you’ve always done things, it may be time to change things up.

When I started as a Scentsy consultant 9 years ago, home parties, events, and internet ads were the biggest ways to grow your business. Now, the ways to grow your business are nearly impossible to list. Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Pinterest, on the go parties, trunk shows, blogging, external websites, and Snapchat are just a few examples of the numerous ways you can grow a successful business these days. And with the internet it’s easier than ever to grow international teams. Scentsy allows you to grow teams in Canada, Mexico, the United Kingdom, Germany, Austria, Ireland, Spain, France, Australia, and New Zealand.

One thing you can be sure of as you run your business is that if it hasn’t changed much yet, it definitely will. And while change can sound scary, when embraced, it can make for a flourishing and successful business.

The most profitable consultants are those who are adaptive to the changing times. Not only do they find themselves more successful but the work they do stays exciting and engaging.

Change is a beautiful thing. Embrace it, move with it, and know that your business won’t be boring. There will always be something new and exciting to engage in.

What has changed about your business? Or if nothing has changed, what are you hoping to change soon?

Don’t have your own business yet? Join us!

Direct Sales Perception vs Reality: Is that even a real job?

Direct Sales Perception vs Reality: Is that even a real job?

“Yes, this is my real job.”

I’m guessing if you do anything other than direct sales, you’ve never had anyone question whether it’s a real job. Even stay-at-homes have serious clout when it comes to how hard they work and everything they do for their families, but for some reason, people tend to assume that if you’re involved in direct sales, it’s just a hobby or a fun side gig.

I often have trouble telling people what I do for a living. Not because I’m ashamed or don’t want people to know, but because people have a hard time believing that a direct sales business can support our family of six.

It seems more feasible to tell people that my husband has some killer corporate job where he works long hours, and I do Scentsy on the side as a fun little hobby. I think that’s the general perception of direct sales these days. “It might be a fun hobby, but it’s unlikely to be a real business.”

On the contrary, this has been our “real” and only job for the past six and a half years. We work part time from home spending our time selling quality home fragrance, and meeting new people while coaching and encouraging men and women from all over the world. Our little Scentsy business did over $22 million in retail sales in 2016.

And believe it or not, we’re not the only ones. In fact, our team has hundreds of women who are now not only running their own Scentsy businesses but also leading teams of other women (and men!) to improve their families financial situations for the better.

Our gig isn’t a get rich quick scheme. It’s not a pyramid scheme. It’s a legitimate business, that is centered around great products, good relationships, and personal growth and leadership.

On our team of almost 8,000 women and men we have 156 women in leadership positions at 3 different levels of leadership: Director, Star Director and SuperStar Director.

Here’s how it breaks down:

We have 118 Directors. A Director has a team that produces at least $10,000 in wholesale on a monthly basis. The average income of those directors is $15,589 annually. All of our Directors run their Scentsy businesses part time in the nooks and crannies of life.

We have 21 Star Directors. A Star Director has a group of consultants that produces at least $30,000 in wholesale a month, and they have at least 2 Directors that have prompted from within their team. The average annual income of our Star Directors is $42,303. Most of our Star Directors also work their businesses part time while working outside the home, being moms, or just living life.

And lastly we have our SuperStar Directors. Our team has 17 of these amazing ladies. Their groups produce at least $80,000 a month in wholesale and they have at least 4 Directors that have promoted from within their teams. The average annual income of our SuperStar Directors is $219,313.

In addition to those leaders, we have 7,792 other men and women in non-leadership roles on our team who are working their businesses their way, on their time, making as little or as much money as they want to work for.

So when people wonder if this is our “real job” I very rarely list out all the details of what it looks like on this side of it, but yes, it’s our “real job”! Ten years ago, I didn’t know this would be our thing, but it is, and we’ve become crazy passionate about the opportunities that Scentsy provides to the world. Men and women can work from home, part time, and create a substantial income for their families. I know it sounds too good to be true, but it’s real.

The women I mentioned above didn’t make this their “real job” by just hoping it would grow and hoping things would go well. They made this into a real opportunity by being committed to working hard and consistently towards a goal.

This business is simple, but it’s not easy. It’s simple because, like I mentioned above, it’s about relationships and personal growth and passion for a product you love. It’s not easy because there is no boss. There is no one to tell you to follow up or follow through or keep at it. After spending $49, you own your own business and ultimately your own future. {That’s beautiful AND scary right?!}

So in honor of the scary and beautiful parts of direct sales, it’s time bring to light the perceptions and the reality surrounding being a Scentsy consultant. Even though it can be challenging at times, I wouldn’t trade it for the world. I truly think everyone should give it a whirl. It’s changed my life and the life of my babies and my husband, and I am beyond grateful for that.

If you’re looking for your own change of some kind, but you’re not quite sure direct sales is the way, stay tuned. You never know what you may learn about what’s it’s really like when this is your “real job.”

If you’re ready for the change, head on over here. Or let’s chat.

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